Learning to Let Go.

This past month has been one of the most emotionally draining times I've had in a very long time. In a matter of three days I managed to lose my great grandfather, better known as Pops, and my great aunt. The fact that my great grandmother lost her husband who's been in her life since she was like 12 (if not younger) and her only sister/ best friend, really breaks my heart.

I've been blessed to have grown up knowing all of my grandparents and great grandparents. But reality is hitting me that I'm older and my family is getting older. All of those individuals that were a major impact in my up bringing are getting older and it's a difficult pill to swallow that I'm beginning to lose those people. It's unfortunate, but true nonetheless, that death makes people reevaluate their lives and refocus. It's a reminder that tomorrow isn't guaranteed and to live every day like it's your last. It's hard for me to imagine the people I use to spend weekends and holidays with not being around for my children (if I ever decide to have any). Weekend slumber parties at great grandma's house wont be something my children get to experience. Enjoying the electricity in the air at one of Pops' fight parties wont be an option and it's difficult enough to know that I wont experience that anymore

My great grandmother was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer and told she only has 6months to live about two months ago. How do you squeeze in years of time you thought you had with someone in a matter of 6months? There are too many holiday dinners, family reunions, movie nights, birthdays, Sundays at church that I have to experience before I'm ready to let her go. Guess it's not my story to write but doesn't God understand the difficulty in losing someone you'd give your own life for?

I'm praying for peace and acceptance in letting go. I feel like this is just the calm before the storm.

Rest in heaven, Pops. you'll forever be missed<3

VENI VIDI VICI

Big ups to the Roman Emperor Julius Caesar.... "I came, I saw, I conquered"


UC.....it's been real!

Dont Swing My Way

Maybe someone can help me out with this one.....what is the point of an open relationship when married??? I've recently had a number of conversations with individuals who are married, male and female, that are into the whole swinging thing.... now...rumor has it, Will and Jada have lasted as long as they have because they're swingers. Is it really that difficult these days to be in a happy, committed marriage without having to step that far out of the box?

I've lost count of the times I've been invited into a marriage for the night. They want to wine and dine me and then....yea, you know the rest. Judge me if you like, but the only way I'd even consider it is if I've been provided a day at the spa, a nice brazilain wax, teeth whitened, a new fit for the occassion and was STILL compensated for my services,.... and another compensation for the disclosure agreement they'd have to agree to. What I look like??? Believe me when I say, no one can afford me. Especially with the drama that is sure to follow.... I'm pretty addictive.

I can kind of understand having sex with the same person for the rest of your life can get redundant, but as the territorial woman that I am, I wish a *bleep* would even dream of touching my HUSBAND. I know many of you have seen the episode of The Game when Melanie was trying to spice up the sex life in her marriage by bringing a third party to the bedroom. At the end of the day, she kicked the trick out. Why? Because the sight of another woman with her man made her sick.

I'll pass with that whole idea, whether I'm the wife or the third party. Anyone out there who thinks differently??